Chris Yaw

I am a Christ Lover

Chris Yaw

Welcome! I’m an Episcopal priest serving a congregation in Metro Detroit... With a passion for gun safety... A zest for online Christian formation... A zeal for video blogging... A budding writer... A heart for those who have unintentionally harmed... A commitment to workforce housing... A love for marrying people... And a wonderful wife, three kids, and a cat... If we have common interests or not, I'd love to connect with you.

Me

Contact Details


  • St. David's Episcopal Church, 16200 W. Twelve Mile Road, Southfield, Michigan, 48076, USA


  • +011 248-557-5430


  • chris@stdavidssf.org

St. David's

I have served as rector of St. David's Episcopal Church in Southfield, MI for 16 years, join us Sundays in person or via zoom.

Disarmory Ministries

Working on the issue of unwanted gun disposal, we've made some real progress in helping rid the U.S. of unwanted firearms.

ChurchNext

Since 2013 we have been helping people learn more about faith through our online learning courses at ChurchNext.

Oakland Housing

Helping middle income families get better housing is a challenge that Oakland Housing has been addressing for 75 years.

Hyacinth Fellowship

Because hurting others hurts us, the Hyacinth Fellowship organizes support groups and reminds us that we are not our worst mistakes.

Yaw Wedding

I have been officiating for more than 20 years and continue to find joy in helping couples build lifelong relationships.

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  • How to Stop Evil

     


    I am as mad as anyone when I see malevolent governments, movements, and people, who oppress, persecute, and kill in order to hoard, dominate, or selfishly enrich.

    And I want to fight - but I have to be wise - and faithful.

    The idea that we can eradicate "evil" by destroying a specific person or a nation using violence is a deeply ingrained human impulse, but it relies on a fundamental misunderstanding of what evil actually is. 

    History and psychology show us that treating evil as if it were a physical object, person, or a localized disease that can be excised with a scalpel consistently fails.

    The primary flaw in trying to "kill" evil is a category mistake. We treat evil as an entity—a physical thing that resides in certain "bad" people. But evil is not a substance; it is a set of behaviors, choices, and systems - and one way or another it gets into us all.

    What to do? This is one lesson from Sunday's gospel about an enemy who sews weeds alongside a gardener's good crop. 

    The interesting advice from the gardener is not to pull out the bad weeds, because in doing so, the good plants will be gone too. Instead we're told to wait. 

    The gardener understands that the good and the bad make up one crop - and the answer is patience. Patience to do the things that have historically been successful at combatting evil:

    Build robust institutions: Building legal systems, human rights frameworks, and democratic checks that prevent power from being concentrated and abused.

    Practice empathy and truth: Facing historical harms honestly (like truth and reconciliation commissions) rather than burying them under fresh violence.

    Address material scarcity: Reducing the desperation, poverty, and isolation that make communities vulnerable to demagogues and radicalization.

    Stopping an active perpetrator of violence is sometimes a necessary act of immediate defense. But confusing containment with eradication is the tragic error of human history. To permanently weaken evil, we have to change the soil so its seeds can no longer take root. Something us gardeners can do.

  • Unhappy 4th? Talk to an immigrant...

     



    Feeling a little disconnected from our nation’s 250th birthday this year? Even a bit... nonchalant?

    Do yourself a favor: Talk to an immigrant.

    New Americans see things many of us take for granted. And it’s not just the landscapes or the prosperity. They see the true greatness of this country.

    They see how we welcome the tired and the weary. How we show up for the sick, the elderly, and the vulnerable. They see a nation that shares its wealth with communities facing war, famine, and natural disasters.

    That’s exactly why we hold our weekly prayer vigils. To remind ourselves how to be welcoming. Because real greatness isn’t built on pride, wealth, or luck.

    Greatness lives in humility. It’s a willingness to serve others as much as we serve ourselves. It echoes that timeless call: "Come to me, all who are weary, and I will give you rest."

    New Americans don't just need us. We need them. They remind us of the beauty of our last 250 years, and they give us hope for the next 250.

  • Ability and Availability

     


    The spiritual life isn't so much about ability as it is availability. 


    This Sunday we hear the famous story of Abraham's sacrifice of Isaac, and a camping trip, they'll never forget...


    In that passage we will hear Abraham utter a Hebrew word, hineni, not once, or twice, but three times. It means, here I am. 


    Abraham, the spiritual founder of three great world religions, did not make a name for himself as an academic theologian or ruler of vast armies, but by simply showing up.


    When God called him, when his son called him, when the angel called him, Abraham said here I am. 


    The spiritual life, then, begins and ends with presence. Listening. Obeying. Getting up. Moving out. It starts as we get started.


    How am I present? And how might I say, here I am?


    God gives ability that begins with availability.

  • When Jesus Sends You Out...

     


    When Jesus sends you out he says to expect resistance.

    Resistance that comes not just from outside but from inside.

    Yes, that Confirmation bias, your brain's tendency to reject anything that does not already fit in with our current understanding, belief system, or paradigm.

    Or our Complexity bias, and our brain's tendency to prefer a simple lie to a complex truth.

    Our Community bias, our brains tendency to reject any idea that will threaten our status in our communities, so that we choose tribe over truth.

    Our Comfort bias, when our brains reject information that is inconvenient, or will disrupt our complacency.

    Or our Confidence bias, and our brain's tendency to believe people who come across as confident, leaving us susceptible to those who come on strong even when they're wrong, like authoritarians or con men.

    These are just a few of the built in biases we all have that make up the resistance we often have to new ideas and new ways of being.

    Before we head out to change the world, we must allow Jesus' radical message of acceptance, forgiveness, hope, and love to change us first.
  • Selling Shoes

     

    Two shoe salesmen are assigned territories in Southern Ohio as they take their first job out of school.

    After their initial  day on the job the first salesman told his boss, "This is useless, I went out to my territory, drove downtown, walked up and down main street, and this is going to be terrible! How am I going to make any sales when nobody around here wears any shoes!"

    Just then the second rookie salesman, fresh off his first day in an adjacent territory, walks up to his boss, just beaming. The boss asks, "Why are you so happy?" The rookie says, "I just spent a day in my territory, driving up and down main street, and I am so excited! Everybody here needs shoes!"

    I've often wondered if the church has vacillated between these two polarities as we follow Jesus' command to go preach the Good News - to go reap that rich harvest of people who have yet to more fully discover the Gospel.

    We can carry attitudes that pivot between impossibility and opportunity - impossibility that nothing ever changes, and the opportunity that it can.

    At the heart is our belief:
    Is our "product" all it's cracked up to be? Does it really bring peace and fulfillment? Are kindness, selflessness, love, and forgiveness really The Way?

    It's been said that good salesman all have one thing in common: they thoroughly believe in their product and in the company that produces it.

    Then maybe witnessing to the work of God is less about the customer and more about the salesman. Having the world fall more deeply in love with Jesus starts when his representatives do the same thing.
  • Love Lies



    There are 3 lies about love we need to stop believing.

    First: Love is not weakness.
    People will tell you that listening to the other side...respecting your enemy...refusing to dehumanize people...means you’re soft.
    No, it means you’re strong enough to break the cycle.
    Because grudges grow like mold in the walls. And eventually, hatred burns down the house it lives in.

    Second: we think happiness comes from more money, more power, more fame.
    But, we know better.
    At the end of your life, nobody says: “I wish I’d spent more time impressing strangers.”
    What fills the soul are loving relationships. People. Connection. Belonging.
    And yet we keep putting stuff before people...even though it never actually makes us happier.

    Third: We believe we are only lovable if we perform.
    If we say the right thing. Look the right way. Know the right people. Win enough approval.
    But that’s exhaustion, not love.
    God does not love a polished version of you. God loves you.
    The real you. Right now. No costume required.
    And the right people in your life will love you for that too.

    Don’t fall for the lies.
  • Power to Care

     


    Why should you care? 

    Guilt? Coercion? 

    How about gratitude. 

    When I'm really thankful for what I've been given, when I see the gifts and skills that I have, it's out of that thankfulness that I can reach out to help those in need. 

    And this is at the heart of this feast called Pentecost. 

    Jesus has died, disciples are praying, and the room gets noisy and people start singing in languages they don't know, they are singing songs of gratitude - 

    And out of this gratitude, they get power, amazing power, and it's the power to suddenly care. 

    They care about the hungry, the needy, the hurting. 

    They care about fairness, they care about Justice. 

    And they go out to the four directions of the world and use this power.

    Out of this overwhelming sense of thankfulness they have found the well of courage and boldness That our world still so desperately needs. 

    Find your power in gratitude 

  • Learning the Language

     


    If you asked me if I know French, I’d say… "Yes and no." I took two years in high school, and my grandmother was a French teacher, so I can definitely navigate a menu. I know the basics. But do I *know* it? Not really.

    Now, my friend Jenny? She’s a French professor. She writes research papers in French. She *thinks* in French. When she says she "knows" the language, it’s a completely different reality than mine. She lives in that world; I’m just visiting for dinner.

    In the Gospel of John, we hear Jesus’ "High Priestly Prayer." And in it, he actually defines "Eternal Life."

    He doesn’t say it’s a place you go when you die. He says: *"This is eternal life, that they may know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom you have sent."*

    Did you catch that? Eternal life isn't a future reward; it’s a present relationship. It’s happening **right now.**

    The challenge is: How well do we "know" Him? A lot of us have "Menu-Level" faith. We know the basics, we’ve got the vocabulary down, but we aren't fluent. We aren't living with a "Kingdom Mind" the way Jenny lives with a French mind.

    Jesus is inviting us into total fluency. To study, use, and live the language of love so deeply that we operate in His world every single day. That’s not just a future hope—that’s eternal life, starting today. 

    Don't just read the menu. 
    Learn the language.
  • Remember the Poor

     


    Remember the poor. 

    I know, I know, it’s hard!

    But it's one of Jesus main messages; he was born poor, lived among the poor, and constantly advocated for them. 

    And so I found myself at yet another Wednesday prayer vigil outside the ICE office in Southfield asking the landlord and immigration enforcement to do the same thing: Remember the poor.

    Let's face it, these ICE arrests and raids are not being made in the leafy suburbs, but in the poor areas of town; we are antagonizing the very people Jesus told us to advocate for. 

    Meanwhile, the wealthy - we're quick to grant them tax breaks, they get pricey lawyers, are friends with the judges, and enjoy favored societal status, look who's on celebrity magazine covers?

    In this Sunday's gospel, Jesus will say, “ If you love me, you'll do what I say, and time and time again,” from The Sermon on the Mount in Matthew 5, to the vision of the great judgment in chapter 25, Jesus made it clear that advocating for the poor is what's being commanded. 

    I know it's not popular, convenient, comfortable, and sometimes even safe, but it's what Jesus did: remember the poor. 

    How can I do the same? 

  • Nice Place

     


    When I got back from my honeymoon I was in a great place. Everything was gold.

    But when I got fired I was in a bad place. Dark clouds, zero motivation.

    And now? When I’m just sitting on the porch after a day of work that actually mattered? I’m in a pretty solid place.

    You see, we use that word "place" all the time, and we aren’t talking about a GPS coordinate or a street address. We’re talking about a state of being. And that may be what Jesus was getting at in John 14.

    When Jesus says he’s "preparing a place" for us, stop thinking about a five-star cabana on a beach or a gated mansion with a gold paved driveway. That’s just us projecting our own materialism onto the Divine.

    The "place" isn’t a zip code. It’s a beloved state of being.

    It’s a place of Shalom. Completeness. Total peace. It’s that deep-breath-in-your-soul kind of rest that only happens when you’re fully dwelling with God.

    And here’s the kicker from John 17: Jesus says we already have eternal life. Not "will have" after we die—but have. Right now. Because we’re already in that "place" with him.

    No - You don't earn it. You don't "hustle" your way into it. It’s a gift you just… take.

    Someone once said the greatest work of a disciple is simply to accept our acceptance. So maybe that’s your only job today. Just accept that you’re already there.
  • Write a Letter to an ICE Detainee

     


    "Remember those in prison as if you were in prison."

    Yeah—it’s in the Book of Hebrews.

    And yes - it’s a lot easier to quote than to actually do. 

    But you can do something right now to help. Right now, I’m joining dozens of folks across Michigan who are fasting in solidarity with ICE detainees held at the North Lake Detention Center in Baldwin. We’re hearing some truly alarming stuff—inedible food, denied medical care, and administrative delays that feel less like "red tape" and more like psychological torture.

    The goal seems pretty clear: break their spirits until they give up on their hope of staying in the U.S. meaning many will have to live with broken American promises and go back to poor, violent, and often life-threatening situations.

    In the midst of this we have to remember that these are human beings. They are beloved. And they deserve to know they aren't forgotten in the machinery of a detention center.
    SO I'm asking you to join me and take 5 minutes to write a letter.

    How?

    Instructions are below - and they're easy.

    We are a country of compassionate, loving people who care about each other - incarcerated or not - and taking a few minutes to encourage someone who's suffering is one way to show this. Something so small can make a big difference.
    I'll see you Sunday.

    How to write a letter to a Detainee Who's Requested One

    Begin by writing from your heart.

    Introduce yourself and explain why you're writing.

    Include details. People in extended confinement describe that the textures and experiences of every day life become distant memories.

    News is often restricted, you may provide updates about the movement for immigrant rights, or other major events you feel are relevant.

    What to avoid:
    1-Anything that describes illegal activities. Assume letters will be screened by staff.
    2-Avoid Proselytizing. Many detainees are people of faith, and that can be celebrated in your letter! But avoid language that demeans other faiths or seeks to convert.
    3-Saying that the person who receives this letter is actively on Hunger Strike. Detainees on strike have been intimidated and are receiving pressure to stop. We want them to know we support them regardless of if they are actively striking.

    Where do you send it?

    Grand Rapids Mennonite Fellowship
    attn: Solidarity Fast
    1343 Buffalo Ave NE
    Grand Rapids, MI 49505

    Thanks. This small act can make a big difference.
  • Dog Whistle

     


    My friend came home one day with a dog whistle.

    He stood in the living room, right over the family dog who was passed out on the rug, and he blew it. Hard.

    I didn't hear a thing. He didn't hear a thing. But that dog? He bolted upright like he’d just been struck by lightning.

    See, my friend used that whistle for everything. Training, calling him from across the neighborhood—no matter how loud he blew it, it stayed "silent" to us. But to the dog? It was the only sound that mattered.

    The voice of Jesus is kind of like that.

    It’s not a scream. It’s not a megaphone. It’s the frequency of Love. It’s this specific, resonant call to move through the world with care and obsession for the person standing right in front of you.

    And here’s the kicker: You’re pre-wired for it.

    There is a Divine spark inside of you that recognizes that frequency. It’s built into your DNA. Everyone can hear it, but not everyone listens.

    We’re experts at static. We tune into the noise of ego, or fear, or the hundred other "calls" telling us who to be. But following Jesus? That’s just the practice of tuning your ears back to that one distinct frequency of Love.

    It’s not about being a "good boy" for the Master. It’s about realizing the Master is actually for you.

    When you stop ignoring the whistle and start moving toward Love, your life finally starts to make sense. And the world around you? It actually gets a little better.

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