Chris Yaw

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Chris Yaw

Welcome! I’m an Episcopal priest serving a congregation in Metro Detroit... With a passion for gun safety... A zest for online Christian formation... A zeal for video blogging... A budding writer... A heart for those who have unintentionally harmed... A commitment to workforce housing... A love for marrying people... And a wonderful wife, three kids, and a cat... If we have common interests or not, I'd love to connect with you.

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Contact Details


  • St. David's Episcopal Church, 16200 W. Twelve Mile Road, Southfield, Michigan, 48076, USA


  • +011 248-557-5430


  • chris@stdavidssf.org

St. David's

I have served as rector of St. David's Episcopal Church in Southfield, MI for 16 years, join us Sundays in person or via zoom.

Disarmory Ministries

Working on the issue of unwanted gun disposal, we've made some real progress in helping rid the U.S. of unwanted firearms.

ChurchNext

Since 2013 we have been helping people learn more about faith through our online learning courses at ChurchNext.

Oakland Housing

Helping middle income families get better housing is a challenge that Oakland Housing has been addressing for 75 years.

Hyacinth Fellowship

Because hurting others hurts us, the Hyacinth Fellowship organizes support groups and reminds us that we are not our worst mistakes.

Yaw Wedding

I have been officiating for more than 20 years and continue to find joy in helping couples build lifelong relationships.

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  • Prayers and Resources for Connecticut School Shooting Aftermath



    Our hearts are grieving for yet another tragic school shooting - this one, horrifyingly, involving small children.

    Many of us have young ones who may be asking about this, either sooner or later. So here's a link to a 2 page document from the National Association of School Psychologists called, 'Talking to Children About Violence: Tips for Parents and Teachers.'

    In the meantime, let us pray:

    Almighty God, welcome into your arms the victims of school violence. Comfort families, children, and all who mourn the tragedy of this hour. Help us in our fear and uncertainty. Bless us with the knowledge that we are secure in your love; and strengthen all those who work to bring hope out of loss and comfort out of pain. And give us wisdom and strength as a nation to address the larger issues of gun safety and availability. We ask this in the name of the One well-acquainted with grief, your Son Jesus Christ, who with you and the Holy Spirit, live and reign, one God forever and ever, Amen.
  • Good News?



    My tux was sharp, my hair was trimmed, and my fly was down.

    That’s how I started off the evening as I entered a crowded fundraiser for a well known non-profit.

    I mixed and mingled with the well-coifed crowd, appearing with many friends in many photographs that attest to my appearance.

    Then, as Master of Ceremonies I took to the podium and was just about to begin my remarks when a dear friend leaned over and finally told me, ‘Chris, your barn door is open.’

    Sure enough, white polka dot undies and all, were quite visible as I began the mental calculations: ‘Did this happen at home? How long have I looked like this? Who’s probably seen this?...’

    I also wondered what things would’ve been like had I gone much farther – and exposed myself (literally) to TV cameras and a much larger crowd of people.

    That’s when the nature of my friend’s comment hit me. While, no one likes to be told their fly is down, my friend had given me the best gift I would receive that night. The truth is good news.

    This Sunday you and I will hear the story of crowds coming out to hear John the Baptist who tells them they’re vipers, warns them that God’s wrath is coming for them, belittles their faith, and threatens them with fiery punishment. And this is called ‘good news.

    Why? Because it’s the truth.

    Good news is not simply comfort, security, relief, and consolation. Good news is when truth comes to town – when we’re shown who we are, where we are, and what’s really happening.

    What ‘good news’ are we shunning, avoiding, or choosing not to pay attention to? How is God using our critics to truth-tell? How might we make more time to ponder the hard but true words that are trying to bring us Good News?

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    Reading
    The Leadership Triangle – Kevin Ford
    Paul – Donald Coogan
    Naked Spirituality – Brian McLaren
  • Advent Decluttering



    The shortest distance between two points is a straight line.

    Duh.

    Then how come the things I want to do I never get to do because I always seem to be doing something else?

    Life gets cluttered doesn’t it?

    Take my bookshelf for example, here’s where I collect the books whose reading I believe will make me a better pastor and Christ follower.



    When we put that bookcase there, and hung that diploma there, our décor scheme didn’t really call for me to stack all those books exactly where they rest.

    So during Advent I’m clearing them off, one by one, and by Christmas the stack will be gone.

    It’s my Advent metaphor. What’s yours?

    As we will hear on Sunday, Advent calls us to ‘Prepare the way of the Lord’ by making paths straight. No more meandering and mulling around, just beelines. Advent is the kick in the pants we may need to finish that project, clean off that plate, delegate this task, reassign that chore, or even eliminate it altogether.

    It’s because Jesus is coming, not just on December 25th, but at any moment.
    We’re only a grace away from a car wreck, blood clot, or even that great parting of the clouds.

    Are we keeping the main thing, the main thing?
    What needs decluttering?
    Are we just being active, or are we being productive?
    How can we shorten the distance between those two points?

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    Reading
    Small Talk – Debra Fine
    The Triumph of Christianity – Rodney Stark
    Paul – Donald Coogan
  • Advent Waiting



    There are two kinds of waiting:

    First there’s the waiting for things we know are going to happen - like snowfall, death, and the fact that I will be hungry at 6pm tonight.

    Then there’s the waiting for things that might happen – like a Tigers World Series crown, a turnaround in the plight of Detroit, and winning the Powerball jackpot.

    For the things in the first category, we prepare: we buy snow shovels, make wills, and put food in the refrigerator.

    For the things in the second category, not so much.

    Sure, we’ll cheer on the Tigers, hope for a Motown comeback, and fantasize about spending our lottery winnings. It’s because these are things that might happen, but I’m not banking on it.

    Advent’s job is to remind us that faith in God always goes in that first category.

    Sure, it sounds mad. Can we really count on a God we can’t see to do things we can’t imagine? How can there possibly be a happy ending to the tragedies around us? What kinds of order can be made from the randomness that permeates our days? And so we keep our faith at arm’s length, hoping more than believing.

    Which is why Advent’s job is to help us believe more than hope.

    When we think about it, the Christian faith does make some sense to us – otherwise we would not pray as we do, belong to a faith community, or have read this far. In our heart of hearts we suspect that this Jesus thing is true. And Advent is calling us to believe it really is.

    Can we really believe that amidst the turmoil around us, God is up to something? Can we really believe that there is some sort of divine plan being played out in the universe? Can we really believe that God will take care of us?

    Advent says yes, start planning on it.

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    Reading
    The Post-Black and Post-White Church – Efrem Smith
    Rome and Jerusalem – Martin Goodman
    Parting the Waters – Taylor Branch
  • Who’s the King?



    Sure this image of the turkey bumping Uncle Sam from the throne has its place, but updating it would likely mean including Sam Walton…

    Yep, the holidays are here, let the shopping begin…

    What was once Black Friday is now Black Thursday night – as many of us take to the malls for those elusive bargains. Sure, we’re off-put by holiday commercialization, we may even wear one of those ‘Jesus is the Reason…’ lapel pins, yet we participate fully.

    Many of us will waver between feelings of compulsion to buy and spend more, often times for people who don’t need it or won’t long remember it – and feelings of guilt knowing that our relentless consumption isn’t really helping me, them, or us.

    It’s the irresistible allure of a kingdom. It is a kingdom that tells us that things make us happy, that possessions bring true contentment, that a new dress, gadget, or car, will quell my feelings of inadequacy. And we all buy into it to one extent or another.

    This Sunday is Christ the King Sunday. It is the last Sunday of the liturgical year (as the Christian new year begins with Advent). We celebrate this feast because you and I desperately need the reminder that there is another Kingdom out there.

    This is the Kingdom that tells us we are loved just as we are, we do best when we reorder our desires instead of running with them, and that our deepest contentment is not found in things or experiences, but in God.

    Friends, we are members of a counter-cultural movement that will never ‘fit in with the crowd’ - our king is not here because our kingdom is not here. Our challenge then, is to live more fully into this reality – to deepen the embrace of our belovedness and rest in the peaceful promises of God – that all will be OK, we have nothing to worry about, and nothing to fear – promises from a King who will never be tossed from the throne.

    Happy Thanksgiving.

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    Reading
    God is Red – Liao Yiwu
    The Passionate Jesus – Peter Wallace
    Parting the Waters – Taylor Branch
  • Live That Life



    The other day my friend Robin shared a dream.

    She had died and found herself entering heaven.

    As she walked into the heavenly city she was immediately greeted by a little girl named Maria who threw her arms around Robin’s neck and said, ‘Robin, it’s so nice to meet you! Thank you, thank you, thank you!’

    Maria was the Robin’s sponsored child.

    They had never met, simply exchanged letters, along with Robin’s monthly checks that allowed Maria to go to school, receive vaccinations, as well as regular meals in her third world country. Robin’s sacrifice for Maria really meant something. Jesus was right.

    Many of the decisions and lifestyle choices you and I make are based on similar thinking. When you and I decide not to answer hurt with vengeance, anger with fury, and frustration with aggravation – when we decide that our present sacrifices – of good cheer through hardship, dignity through disaster, and faith through trial – are what we really should do, we are acting in faith that what Jesus talked about was really true.

    In Sunday’s Gospel Jesus tells his disciples that the huge Jewish temple will be destroyed – but not to worry because all will be fine in the end. He is asking his followers not to pay too much attention to living according to worldly thinking and carnal pursuits – rather to live focused on the things above.

    Don’t live this life, live that life.

    Every day you and I face similar decisions that express the kind of life we’re choosing to live. And our challenge remains constant: to live for others, to surrender to love, to brush aside fear and anger – to live as if Jesus’ words were true.

    As we face the day’s decisions, in what ways can we make them less in line with this life and more in line with that one?

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    Reading
    Parting the Waters – Taylor Branch
    The Faith Club – Idiby, Oliver, and Warner
    The Sermon on the Mount – Emmet Fox
  • The Morning After



    Still hung over from celebrating last night’s vote tallies?

    Or have we begun packing for Canada?

    Or are we somewhat dazed that $6 billion dollars was spent to figure out we want to keep the government essentially the same?

    It was an expensive and divisive election for a divided nation. Yet we have awakened to another day, as the Pledge tells us, ‘one nation, under God.’

    Yes, our Christian challenge in this contentious election cycle has been to remember that. We’ve been called to resist the anxieties that anger and demean, to remain cool in heated conversation, poised as things shook, and firm in our conviction that while our political life is very important, no man, movement, candidate, or cause, can keep God from reigning.

    Oh yes, no matter who is in the White House, God is on the throne.

    This is no small matter. This conviction has caused fishermen to drop their nets, widows to give their last mite (as we shall see this Sunday), and you and me to totally alter our lives by giving them to God, fully and wholly to be made holy.

    This means our morning-after-the-election job is clear: to renew our partnership with God and God’s mission to reconcile the world.

    We have a job to play in patching up differences, healing wounds, building bridges, forgiving others, and doing all we can to help bring peace to a discordant landscape.

    Our morning-after mission is clear: hug your opponent, that’s where it all starts.


    Prayer for a New Government
    O blessed God, look upon your people and fill our leaders with your wisdom and insight, that righteousness and justice may abound in our nation, bringing peace and prosperity, especially for the lowly and poor, that all nations may live in harmony and respect, within the blessedness of your abiding glory. Amen.


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    Reading:
    Theory U – Otto Sharmer
    Ashamed No More – T.C. Ryan
    Parting the Waters – Taylor Branch
  • Who Are Our Heroes?



    Who are our heroes?

    Are they supermodels, supermoguls, or supermoms?

    Are they articulate bishops, moving preachers, or inspiring spiritual writers?

    Picking heroes these days is difficult for us because we live in a culture where the celebrity has replaced the saint.

    Christian bookstores are full of top-sellers by sports stars and big-church pastors whose fame is derived more from their celebrity than their saintliness.

    The problem, of course, is that celebrities are the opposite of saints. As philosopher James Danaher observes, while the celebrity draws his or her identity from the notoriety that masses of people provide, the saint draws his or her identity from God alone.

    This Sunday is All Saints’ Sunday. On this day you and I contemplate the heroes in our lives. We may consider what examples they’re setting and if we really want to follow them.

    I recently had the pleasure of presiding over the funeral of a saint. Mike did not seek power, prestige, or possessions. He sought to love and give. He was no celebrity. He was a man of God whose patience, quiet devotion and honesty made him the ideal Christian role model.

    Our broken, confused, and violent world desperately needs role models like Mike. And you and me. So who are we looking up to today? Who are our heroes? And do we need to substitute a saint or two for a celebrity?

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    Reading
    Parting the Waters – Taylor Branch
    Rabbi Paul – Bruce Chilton
    Mark – Michael Card
  • Who Gave Others the Right?



    Who gave other people the right to tell me who I am?

    Was it my mom? Dad? The cool kids at school? Maybe it was the rich neighbor? The homecoming court? Or my own idiosyncratic psychosis?

    The most important beholder of who I am is me. I decide I’m beautiful, smart, witty, generous, compassionate, etc. And nobody else gets that right.

    Unless, of course, we’ve given our lives to Jesus.

    Then all bets are off.

    Because no matter who we’ve decided we are, we’ve underestimated.

    No matter how beautiful, smart, witty, and compassionate you think you are, you have nowhere near the idea of your own fabulousness as the One whom you call Lord.

    So stop looking for everyone else’s approval and own the only approval that really matters. You have an incredible mind. Use it. Be critical of the culture surrounding us, and the God who watches over us. Quit with the self-deprecation and false humility. You are amazing in God's eyes. Period.

    After all, faith means caring less about what people say and more about what God says.

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    Reading
    Becoming a Blessed Church- N Graham Standish
    Evolution of the Word - Marcus Borg
    The Triumph of Christianity - Rodney Stark
  • iServe



    My friend Anne is a talented nurse.

    She worked hard to earn her degrees, which she puts to regular use in her frenetic profession – where she cares for a wide variety of patients who have undergone increasingly complex procedures and require increasingly complex recuperative regimens. Anne can insert an IV, read an EKG, and interpret most every beep and bleep that comes from an array of constantly updated monitors that find their way into her rooms. Anne is a consummate professional, with years of experience. There are few things that surprise her anymore, and only one thing that gets under her skin.

    Every once in a while, as Anne is making her rounds, she will come upon a patient whose large family is gathered nearby. After she performs her tasks, she will inquire about nutritional needs: ‘May I get you anything to eat or drink?’ she will ask her charge. This is when the patient turns to the assembled family and says, ‘Hey who wants something to eat or drink – Anne’s gonna get whatever you want!’

    Anne is a nurse, not a waitress. Her professional degrees are in palliative care not bartending. Few things ruffle her feathers like being demoted to scullery maid.

    Can we relate to this? Lawyers asked to make copies. Engineers asked to make coffee. The demeaning, the undignified, and the humiliating. What gets under our skin?

    In Sunday’s Gospel Jesus knows, and tells us how to cope.

    Faced with a band of sophomoric disciples, whose argument over who is God’s favorite was so grossly immature that even they wouldn’t fess up to participating, Jesus taught them a lesson. Taking a child, whose social status was less than a stray dog, he said, ‘Whoever welcomes this child welcomes me.’

    This is the image my friend Anne carries in her mind as she delivers a ginger ale, diet coke, and coffee to those clueless patient families. She is not serving them, she is serving Jesus. Sure, she’s showing them hospitality, but she’s really welcoming Jesus.

    When we are asked to do tasks that are "beneath" us, converse with people "below" us, aid the lowly among us – how can we see Jesus in this? Can we understand the duties that humble us not as demeaning and denigrating, but as opportunities to serve the One whom we long to serve?

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    Reading
    Theodore Rex – Edmund Mullins
    How to Be a Blessed Church – N Graham Standish
    Ashamed No More – TC Ryan
  • Tripping Hazard



    At the end of an art class the teacher lined up our final projects on the chalkboard and began publicly critiquing them. When she got to mine, she spared no praise. The juxtaposition of imagery, exquisite use of pencils, and keen eye for detail had well captured the snapshot taped in the bottom right hand corner. You could practically hear my ego expanding.

    The next piece critiqued was from the class clown. Jane’s rendition of her parents was horrible. Unable to keep my opinions to myself, and having ascended to the position of at least equality with my teacher, I blurted out, ‘Jane! Your drawing makes it look like your mother has no arms.’ Crickets. Why weren’t people laughing? You guessed it. Jane’s mother had no arms.

    Believe it or not, in Sunday’s Gospel we hear an even worse gaffe.  St. Peter, who had become the first person to correctly name Jesus as Messiah, figured this great wisdom had earned him a platform of equality with his Master. But his attempt to correct his Lord failed miserably when Jesus answered, ‘Get behind me Satan!’

    Peter’s superior acumen got him to the head of the class, just like ours does.

    Peter’s inflated view of his accomplishment put him in the doghouse, just like ours does.

    Yet this message goes deeper than just, ‘Watch your tongue and be humble!’ and asks us to ponder where our superior acumen comes from and what our responsibilities toward it really are.

    Last Sunday we talked about seeing God in the inconveniences, surprises, headaches, and hassles of our lives. This week it’s as if Jesus also wants us to see Him in the prizes, promotions, accomplishments, and pinnacles we reach. Both are occasions to meet God and grow in relationship, yet how often we run to God for help - but fail, like the parable of the 10 cleansed lepers, to return to the Lord when we’re blessed? Yes, a blessing can actually be a tripping hazard.

    We figure that our blessings were not given to us so that we can forget God, but so we might enjoy them, give thanks for them, and share them.

    So we ask, what great thing has happened to us lately? Have we spent an inordinate amount of time patting ourselves on the back and pondering its rewards? Have we asked those deeper questions of, ‘Why did you give me this and how might I cope with it? What are my responsibilities with this gift? Can you remind me that, like every other gift, it has less to do with my work than Your love for me?

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    Reading
    Theodore Rex – Edmund Morris
    Evolution of the Word – Marcus Borg
    Made to Stick – Chip and Dan Heath
  • The Inconvenience of Discipleship


    When I drove out of the gas station the other day, I was in a hurry. That’s why I brushed off a shabbily dressed woman who was trying to flag me down to ask me for help with her car. I did not have time for this. I was already late. Surely someone else at the crowded gas station could help her. I drove off.

    I did not get far before my better angels reminded me that the appointment I was running to could wait, and, of course, that I’m a priest (oh ya…). So I turned around and went back to the gas station. The woman did not seem to care that I had blown her off, and instead, was happy to see that I would help, which I did. And in no time we worked out a strategy for tending to her car, and I was on my way.

    Once again I was reminded that doing the right thing is rarely convenient. It is often a hassle. And its reward is not always apparent. Yet we are called to do the right thing, not the convenient thing – which is what Jesus does.

    In this Sunday’s Gospel we find Jesus healing someone He apparently had not planned on healing. Tired from His ministry, He was trying to sneak away to rest when a badgering gentile kept at Him until He healed her daughter. His attitude toward her was not unlike the one I had toward that woman in the gas station – ‘Just leave me alone, I have no time for this.’ But the woman persisted, and Jesus acquiesced. Doing the right thing is rarely easy.

    So we ask ourselves about the interruptions, inconveniences, hassles, and headaches that arise in the course of our ‘ministries’ – the email for help from that serially ungrateful person or the bound-to-last-too-long phone call from the whiner who needs a hand. Do we need to step back and consider God’s hand in this? Are we recognizing that these are opportunities to serve Christ? How might we better move through our hassle-filled days, knowing that God is often in the midst of our inconveniences?

      
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    Reading
    The Good of Affluence – John Schneider
    The Last Stand – Nathaniel PhilBrick
    Evolution o the Word – Marcus Borg
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