What Really Makes Us Happy
What’s going to make us happy in these fear-filled times?
Let’s admit to the temptation of our present age that calls us
to emphasize personal protection and security, the need to defend, guard, and
preserve, the need to ‘look out for number one,’ and to save not share.
But is that really where it’s at?
In 2011, the top 20% of Americans gave 1.3% of their income
to charity. Presumably this was because they felt they did not have enough to
be more generous – they needed to hold onto more in order to be happy.
In contrast, the bottom 20% gave away 3.2% to charity – more
than double, almost triple what their wealthier counterparts gave away.
Now the propensity for lower income people to be more
generous than wealthier people is well documented, though its benefits are not
nearly as well known.
The fact is that countless longitudinal surveys reveal one
consistent measurement of happiness: warm caring relationships. Financial
success and the acquisition of material goods rank considerably lower on the
list of factors that create contentment. In fact, wealth can become, and often
is, a curse. Famous psychologist Karl Menninger once commented that over many
decades working in mental health, happy and content people are more likely to
be generous people.
All this comes to mind as we head into the Christmas home
stretch, and particularly on a Sunday when we will hear a related gospel
reading. If we want to have the best Christmas ever, it may mean putting less
emphasis on ‘stuff’ and more emphasis on cultivating warm caring relationships.
It will call us to generosity and sacrifice, kindness and liberality of heart.
May God give us the faith to be charitable and giving, as
well as the assurance that in his hands, we can be as generous as he is.